Anyone who knows me will be nodding their head vigorously as I say the following –
I judge others actions all the time. There is a very clear right and wrong. There is very little middle ground, maybe even no grey. For everything!
That was till Peanut was born. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t become an angel overnight (far from it J, again the heads are nodding vigorously!!) but the ‘grey’ has increased a lot. For someone who didn’t believe in superstitions and customs – “ where’s the science behind it?” “Give me the logic” to calling up my mom in law for ‘nazar utarna’ remedies, I have changed leaps and bounds.
There is no logic but when it comes to my babies, do I really care for logic! If it helps Peanut and Buttercup then there’s NO MORE discussion! ( No angel, remember! J)
1. Children must be strapped to their car seats in the back.
2. Children must sleep on time, everyday.
3. Children must eat all their food.
4. No TV for children.
5. Definitely NO 3+4 together!!!
And the list goes on…
Enter my world now and
- There are situations when its ok if they are in your lap in the car ( no high speed though). And how can we blame the Indian parents, crazy traffic and god forbid you stop on the side (no designated place provided for emergencies), a big bus will honk you out of its way! So how do we appease a toddler in discomfort – the forbidden lap while driving J
- Ok I strive to do this everyday, but hey there are no robots anywhere. So once in a while the schedule goes awry and bedtime gets pushed to an hour or more ( ouch!) later than usual. I have learnt to make my peace with it ( Do I really have a choice?)
- This one I really struggled with for a very long time and sometimes still make the mistake with Buttercup. But now I try and let my child decide how much they want to eat. I read somewhere that it’s the parents part to provide all we can on the table and it’s the child’s part to eat all they can. What are we trying to achieve? Good eating habits by force feeding or gentle introduction to all kinds of food especially when they are only toddlers. Peanut suffered but hopefully there’s redemption with Buttercup.
- Long and many discussions on the ill effects of TV on young minds, with all and sundry changed when I needed some ‘ME’ time and put on a cartoon for my toddler. I ensure its not daily or even regular but I don’t begrudge myself if he watches a little, till I regain some sanity.
- Love this one!!! Meal times are mostly with a laptop (only consolation is that we the parents decide on what content he watches). Remember the no forcing, well this is our resolution. Isn’t some food going in their tummies, well then its ok! J
I refrain from judging ( who am I to talk or feel about another’s circumstance), I’m a lot more flexible and a lot more open to new ideas and ways of doing things ( not very creative and so hubby to the rescue… but I listen to his inputs).
Thank you Peanut and Buttercup.